‘flying the friendly skies’

Posted: January 29, 2011 in Uncategorized

The Women’s Aid Organization (WAO) defines sexual harassment in the workplace as sexual conduct that is unwanted, unwelcome or unsolicited. It is also classified as receiving unwanted attention, being propositioned, groped, subjected to offensive remarks about personal appearance, shown sexually explicit material, being threatened, blackmailed or subjected to attempted non-consensual sexual acts.

Here are some steps you can take if you are a victim:

Tell the offender their attention is unwanted:
Set clear, verbal boundaries. Ignoring the behavior actually encourages it to continue. Don’t expect the person to read your mind to learn how you feel about what they are doing. The only way they will know the attention is unwanted is if you tell them it is unwanted.

Be firm and direct:
Stand your ground and stick to your own agenda. Don’t respond to the harasser’s excuses or diversionary tactics. Harassers will often try to draw you into a dialogue or argument about why you should submit to their demands. Refuse to discuss the issue with them as this can become a power game in itself. Also, do not allow yourself to be manipulated by others into backing down.

Document the harassment:
Keep a log of what is happening, particularly if the perpetrator is a superior. Document each incident, including dates, times, names of witnesses, etc. Save e-mails to a disc and keep it at home. Do not throw away any mail or e-mail that is related to the harassment, even if the mail is anonymous. Find witnesses to what transpired, or arrange to have witnesses when you are in the presence of the person who is bothering or harassing you.

Be smart about it:
Have all your ducks in a row before you make a formal complaint. Be sure you have witnesses or documented proof that the harassment occurred. Harassers will often lie, saying it never happened, and it becomes a “She said, he said” situation. If you plan to make a formal complaint, it is best if you can show them you tried to deal with the situation yourself, first, and in a constructive manner.

If the problem is serious enough to make a formal complaint over, then it is serious enough to communicate about to the offender first. Plus, doing this makes it harder for anyone to say you are just a trouble-maker, which is the common response of a company when they are faced with harassment complaints.

Excerpt taken from www.sexualharassmentsupport.org/WhatToDo.html.

I want to go and buy this fantastic book title: Madness Aboard! Welcome to Plane Insanity !
Some of the examples point written in the book 😀

“Let’s say a man and a woman go out drinking, get drunk and return to the man’s room. The next day, the woman cries rape. But the man could always turn around and say she was leading him on. What happens then? That’s why a lot of cases go unreported,” he says.

It used to be that your senior would force you to smoke, drink and even sleep with them. If you didn’t comply, they would make your life hell,” she says. “I found it really difficult to hold on to myself during the first few years of work. I had to do double the amount of work simply because I didn’t want to join in.”

“It’s as if normal rules don’t apply when you’re 40,000ft (12,192m) in the air,” she says. “This problem is further exacerbated during the layover period, when you’re in a foreign land with co-workers who are virtual strangers. There was a lot of hard partying going on.”

“She told me she felt dirty every time she put on her uniform so she quit her job,”

“A colleague of mine was terrified because the head steward wouldn’t stop knocking on her hotel door in the middle of the night. When she didn’t respond, he taunted her in front of everyone the next morning. It got so bad that she cried every single day.”

“It’s still normal for a male captain or steward to refer to a stewardess as a ‘crew meal’, meaning that she’s an easy lay,” says Teo. “That’s the first thing they look out for in a flight — a stewardess that they can makan (“eat”) and pass on to their colleagues. They think it’s funny.”

“The supervisor who raped my friend is still working, even though he has amassed a string of cases over the years,” reveals Teo. “He even got promoted recently.


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